The sexualization of a young, competent competitor is a way to put that woman in her âproperâ place.
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| Athabasca Glacier, by Carol L. Douglas |
âShe’s great,â a woman told me about a young woman artist. âExcellent drafting, fantastic brushwork. But, actually, I think she has more ground to cover before she hits her full potential.â It was an admiring, supportive, incisive comment.
âNice ass,â said one of her male peers.
The vast majority of the men I know in the art world are kind and decent fellows. But not all. (Sadly, the offenders are unlikely to read this blog.) Consider the artist who importunes a woman his daughterâs age for a date, while he has a long-standing partner at home. Or the pair who mutter suggestive comments about another artist to each other while sitting right next to an older lady. (As women of a certain age know, with wrinkles and grey hair comes a magic cloak of invisibility.)
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| Parker Dinghy, by Carol L. Douglas |
When I was young, I put on a stiff face and ignored cat-calling. After all, women are trained to be polite. I wish I had said something instead. It wasnât until my own daughters reached that age that I realized how corrosive it is. But, for some reason, young women generally donât have the power to control the situation. âItâs not important,â they tell me, or âIt happens everywhere. Might as well get used to it.â
I talked with another young woman artist yesterday. Sheâs changed her mind about it. âIâve resolved to call them out,â she told me. I wish her well. More young women should do so.
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| Three Graces, by Carol L. Douglas. Courtesy Camden Falls Gallery. |
The sexualization of a young, competent competitor is a way to put that woman in her âproperâ place. If a man objectifies her, he can ignore the fact that she can paint circles around him. The problem is his, not hers, but itâs still offensive and it coarsens the community.
âItâs a thin veneer of bravado painted over a thick layer of insecurity,â commented another woman artist, comparing that behavior to pack mentality. âThese men are not going to take down an older woman, so they hunt the young one instead.â
In the old days of chaperones, a man couldnât get past an older woman and her sharp stick to make lewd comments. A young woman had the weight of an alpha female on her side. We artists travel alone for the most part, putting us all outside our comfort zones.
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| Lake Moraine, by Carol L. Douglas |
I have some advice for the men who act like this: get over yourself. Youâre not devastatingly irresistible. Youâre not funny, either. Youâd do your career far more good by shutting up and being a gentleman. That way, even though your painting is lousy, youâll be remembered as a nice guy.
Young women: bear in mind that these old gaffers feel threatened by you. But donât let them objectify you. Call them out.
Old men: that could be your daughter. Donât let that kind of thing pass.
Old women: nobody expects a grandmother to have a sharp right hook.